*Flog him* (Laughs)

08 November 2015, 22:31


C.E: How is the awesome, sweet, beautiful Duchess Today?

M: Wow! It must be a very pleasant Sunday evening.  She is simply beautiful.

C.E: (big smile) Can’t I just hail the Duchess?

M: Lol

C.E: (face covered) I’ve really missed her.

M: awwwwwwwwww… she feels special.

C.E: She is always special. Feeling like it or not.

M: Yes, Captain Sir. Sir, yes sir.

C.E: C’mon. What’s with the military greeting.

M: Lol.

C.E: My relative just feels that not all ladies deserve pampering. He feels many ladies love fantasy too much.

M: flog him. Flog some sense into him.

It’s tough enough to be a lady in a man’s world.

I won’t demand it. It’s my right.

Why won’t you pamper Dee Ami by default.

It’s a privilege for any man.

I am too strong for myself. Lol… if you know what I mean.

So if or when I let you pamper me, you should appreciate  it so much.

You should even go out of your way if need be. Lol… I am serious though.

There is a saying where I’m from geographically…, ‘’Golds are sold to those who know IT

worth.’’ That’s it right there.

And I am Diamond. Oh glory!!! Which is more upgraded than gold, cos you don’t get to see

Diamonds as often as you get to see gold.

How many men engage or marry their wives with Diamond plated/concentrated rings? well,

there you  get your answer.

It’s my right as Diamond to be pampered. Period.

C.E: looooooooooooooooooooool… Deeeeeeee!!!!!! I sooooooooo miss you

M: Lol

C.E: I’m imagining your facial expression while typing this. Now, you can write about a woman appreciating

herself first, then the world recognizes this, and does same to her. Wink

M: I see you!!! Wink

C.E: This moved you. See how much you replied.

Me: Lol

C.E: How’d you expect me to flog him? He’s olderrrrrrrrrrrrr. I pray for him though.

M: Yes, he needs prayer.


Ok, the above conversation is 8months plus some days old today, which is the 22nd of July, 2016.

I have decided to make use of one stone, killing two birds. C.E suggested that I write an article, I didn’t feel the push to write one back then, so I waited. Still don’t feel like it today, Captain. Can’t wait no more. Smiles

I prefer to address this straight up (no article).

The few men who really know me personally, by now, know my stance. So I choose not to further express myself @man talk.  I really, and seriously do pity men who still think this way@ C.E’s relative. Not like me take their feelings lightly. I do not.


Now my two pence to the ladies, Ladies!!!! Know your worth. Never go below standard for anyone, including yourself.

A real man should come upgrade you. Invest in your future.

Please Note: Upgrading shouldn’t always be about the Mr., adding more digits to your account. It should be more about purposeful investment (Potential, gift, vision, assignment. Etc.)

He should be able to respect you enough to nurture the Diamond that you are, so you forever sparkle; for as long as God permits. I believe we know how this works, ladies. For you to earn such respect, you must first, respect yourself. It’s really that plain and simple.


Let’s say a word of prayer for men who feel some ladies do not deserve to be pampered, C.E’s relative is the point of contact. I know there are tons of men out there who feel the same way. And please do not forget to pray also, for ladies who, frustrate these men sadly enough, and successfully create such unhealthy mentality, in them.

Let’s not hurt each other no more; producing unhealthy, bitter adults every day. *wink.


Men, do you feel some women shouldn’t be pampered? Ladies how do you feel about this? I feel some ladies largely contribute to C.E relative’s notion. What do you think?

I look forward to reading all your comments.


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  • Reply Ofe July 22, 2016 at 8:03 pm

    Oh i love this article, some people have narrowed pampering to some fantasy story whereas it can be real.pampering is not some sweet talk, it means you appreciate their worth and it brings out sweetness in people which is beautiful. I love to be pampered

    • Reply DeeAmi July 23, 2016 at 9:04 am

      I check with you completely Ofe. Thanks for reading.

  • Reply Sami July 22, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    Hmmm…a nice right up by @deeami…my mentality from chilhood has been pointed towards taking good care of ladies and pampering them no matter what, even tho the ladies that bring up the C.E type of mentality flock around, the beautiful & ever wonderful sister/cousins i have on this planet through almighty God have always given me the reason to believe that ladies are meant to be pampered & also deserve all the love in this whole universe…thanks to my mothers for giving me such beautiful, interesting, loving, sweet and above all, God fearing ladies…shoutout to @faithy, @happy, @jossy and @vikky…God bless u ladies & our mothers that brought you ladies to this world..am forever grateful…love you all

    • Reply DeeAmi July 23, 2016 at 9:09 am

      Good one, Sami. Your mentality brings joy to my psyche. Thanks

  • Reply Dagreat July 22, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    Oh well, we deserve a lot of pampering, it goes a long way to reveal so much deep within (of cause good stuff). I believe so many ladies have so much to give and can give but sometimes, it depends on what they get (pampering) . It takes a strong woman (God ruled) to give all irrespective of the absence of “pampering “.

    • Reply DeeAmi July 23, 2016 at 10:21 am

      Preach! I read you loud and clear DAGREAT. It truly does take a God ruled woman to keep giving her all with the absence of pampering. Pampering is more than just spoiling an adult female with material gifts. It takes a woman to understand the depth and effect of pampering. Deep, I tell you. It is really vital to the six dimensions of her wellness (emotional, intellectual, physical, spiritual, social, occupational.)
      In our today’s world, It’s obvious, not every man realizes this. Ladies, with or without pampering, keep rising and continue giving. We are secure and cool that. *wink
      Thanks for reading.

  • Reply reina July 23, 2016 at 11:45 am

    I totally agree. All women should be pampered….

    • Reply DeeAmi July 23, 2016 at 12:07 pm

      Thanks for reading, Reina.


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