The month of June is my birth month. And for some reason, this morning, I dug into my written archive, and this piece jumped at me to share. And you can also receive it as my belated happy new year message.
"You're familiar with the old written law, 'Love your friend,' and its unwritten companion, 'Hate your enemy.' I'm challenging that. I'm telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the supple moves of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that. Matthew 5:43-47
No matter how badly hurt you’re right now (or have been in the past)
No matter the depth of the wound, the bad mouthing, backstabbing betrayal.
No matter the consistently consistent-bitter competition from people you aren’t competing with or even close to in a circle.
No matter the outrageous conspiring of the conniving lots against you.
No matter the many years of constant heartache endured by those closest, especially.
Regardless of the age of constant emotional, intellectual, spiritual, mental, psychological abuse or blackmail. Etc.
I genuinely do not know who this piece is for (So let’s accept this as a note to all, including the writer — me), but believe it when I say the ‘hate’ road will hurt you more than the worst ill-treatment you’ve ever and will ever know.
Go ahead, shout my name as you sway your brain right at once (boiling up), saying, “Dee, I am only human; if you are human enough, you won’t write this.” be human. Dee, you don’t expect me to sit through this and do nothing about it. A little retaliation won’t bite, would it? Dee, payback does have a way of giving an individual closure. It will soothe the pain a bit, if not entirely”. Don’t you think that could help? Dee, have you asked yourself why good people get hurt the most? What did I ever do to get served all shades of exploitation and unjust treatment? Do I deserve such meanness?
To your questions, I do not require you to do nought around it. You certainly can manage something. As a matter of truthful fact, you should do something. Do the above thing Jesus said. You can do something by accepting what you can (pray), or would you instead allow the bid to retaliate to change you for the worse?
Revenge isn’t sweet (especially for you), no matter how you prefer to serve it; hot, frigid, or lukewarm.
Try thinking of it this way. Sometimes, you are the root cause of the ill-treatment without knowing it; are you willing to hurt yourself to feel better? Other times, jealousy, envy, low self-esteem; all of them, and not you. You are enough just the way you are (This is why the bully is on your case.) it’s the best reaction they could afford at the time. And when (hopefully) they can face their inner demons, you may get an apology and a willingness to mend fences (that’s for the very few lots which are not prideful), but if you don’t, life continues.
PS: Brace up because they may never apologize for what they did to you.
“Good” people aren’t the world’s / societies’ most favourite these days. To some, “Good” is the new boring; take it or leave it. “Good” is not intelligent. “Good” is everything but helpful. Good isn’t enviable anymore. So again, it’s got nothing to do with you. Good stop being the people’s favourite. Not sure when or how it got this bad, but it’s grown worse. Understand this, and make “the against all odds choice, to stay good, even if you are never acknowledged or celebrated.” That’s the best you can do until good conquers evil.
Recently, I came across a South Korean series titled Doctor’s crush (My first @SK.S. I love medical, psychological, and law-related series. And once it’s hands-on practice and little info about characters’ personal lives, I am in for sure. Lately, Hollywood has ‘failed’ my eyes (too much junk and less reality); hence I am trying out other continents. Wink). In an episode, I scanned a line (translated), which gave me so much comfort (a consoling gentle pat on my back). This line made me affirm more and settle within myself that I was not, and still am not, foolish, dim, out of my mind, weak, and stupid; for all the years, I shunned any form of revenge and forgave in love instead, at my pace (either from a distance or at close reach). Dr Jung said, “I AM SO GLAD THAT I DECIDED NOT TO HATE Seo Woo FOR ALL THESE YEARS”. Powerful words, huh? Each word struck a chord . Dr, Jung won eventually, without even trying to, simply because she refused to play the hate card. The journey will be challenging, rough, and unpleasantly complex, creating tough situations. You can get through it all. And healthy too, loving all the way; God’s way.
So, in this New Year, starting today. I ask that you burn the hate card and play the love card of kindness.
Choose good regardless. Choose sweet, but stay firm.
Embrace forgiveness over unforgiveness.
Set boundaries straight in love.
Walk past that hate card staring intensely at you this minute; you don’t have the time or space for it. There are bigger fish to fry. Embark on this year as a love ambassador (the world is short of it), and shun hate intentionally.
Hey, you will get served one, two or three pots of hate one way or another this year (it sucks just thinking about it, but it’s best to prepare your mind). When this happens, here is what I propose you do;
”smile and serve love right back.”
Love hard and often.
Forgive quickly and generously.
Smile because you can. *Wink.